Long Distance Relationship, does it really work?

                                                            Courtesy of Livesadvice.com


Long distance relationship (LDR) is one of the hardest relationships to ever get in to. You need absolutely every fiber of your being plus your partner's same commitment to make it work. I was in an LDR for more than two years. That was when I studied here in Oz and eventually migrated. I have pondered why this type of relationship works and fails. And I think it boils down to a few elements in the relationship to ensure it will work. But at the end of the day, there is one element that is not widely talked about in this kind of relationship. And this element is the most important in my opinion. The "when is the LDR going to end" element.

This particular element in the relationship is key for this relationship to work. Sometimes it only entails you and your partner meeting halfway across the globe to spend a holiday together. Or it may even mean ending the said type of relationship altogether and both of you guys are living in the same post code. Some people get married and then fix the visa the partner, so that the partner can eventually come over, or some people apply their partner for a partner visa. Or for some OFWs (Overseas Filipino Workers) it entails just officially ending their contract with their employer and move back to the Philippines.

Why is it important to set an end date even if it is temporary? It gives both of you a break from the mundane task of just talking on the phone, skyping/facetiming, texting or chatting. At the end of the day, face to face interaction is still better than a virtual convo. You would also get to create memories that would last you until you get to see and be with the other person again (may it be another temporary rendezvous or a permanent set up). You need certain memories (new ones) to keep you going or else it would drive you crazy.

Overall, I don't recommend it. But, if the love that you're feeling is worth fighting for, then give it a go. You might end up being together forever. As for me, the whole ordeal was definitely worth it.